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Kennebunkport, Maine, United States
I’ve had to learn to live life on the positive side. If I can do it, I know anyone can. My goal here is to share my experiences, have others share their's and together we can help and encourage each other to be better people. As we all know, success in life takes effort, a change in behavior and the realization that you have to do both to succeed. Maybe you are one of the millions of people who begin every year saying, “This year is going to be different. This year I’m going to make my dreams come true”. If you do not prepare and change your actions from your current path for the upcoming year, do you really believe you will end up at a different destination than last year? What if we did it together, supporting each other on a daily basis. I hope you'll join the journey of finding positive light in an ever negative world.

Wednesday, December 30, 2009

Happy New Year!!

I’m really looking forward to 2010. I am making my resolution now to post regularly and to start compiling more information for my book.

I’m really enjoying Facebook and am flattered by the number of people who respond positively to my posts. All of you have great feedback which would be a terrific contribution to this blog. As the year goes by, feel free to email me at bluejenaroo@gmail.com and let me know if there are topics you want to hear more about. I love research and I can certainly point you in the right direction if nothing else.

It is my goal in life to create a positive spot for you to stop by, read a bit, add a bit and maybe leave feeling a little better than when you came. We all have struggles in our lives and I believe that together we can make a difference to each other. You never know what kind word you may say today that will help lift someone more than you will ever know.

Peace my friends and Happy New Year!!


Tuesday, November 10, 2009

Ask And You Shall Receive

Sometimes when you least expect it, a person, event or circumstance appears to you with the intent to change the entire course of your life. This may happen to you more than once in your life. Perhaps you’ve even ignored it in the past and didn’t listen to the message being sent to you. Sometimes we ask for help from above, and when we don’t get the answer we’re looking for, we ask again. “Please, show me the answer”…“Sorry, please show me the answer, that wasn’t what I was looking for”. I have asked and asked again. One day after asking for a sign (again), I heard a voice in my head say, “You wanted an answer, I sent you an answer, now you have to listen and start acting”. Of course I knew exactly what it meant. So I did it. I listened and took a big leap on blind faith; listened and just trusted that this was everything I was looking for. And it was; it is.

You shouldn’t expect an easy answer when faced with adversity or change. You just won’t find one. Approach it with an expectation of having to put forth considerable effort in order to construct meaningful changes in your life. After all, do you really want to chance your current situation? What can you do today to change your tomorrow for the better?

If you are constantly overlooking the messages being sent to you on the answers you seek, you are most likely missing out on something amazing.

Tuesday, November 3, 2009

Fear is a four letter word

There was a period of time in my life when I was afraid to walk to the mailbox. Literally. I would virtually have a panic attack and wouldn’t be able to breathe just walking from my house to the mailbox. God forbid I had to drive the mile to the school to pick one of my kids. I cried a lot and wondered where I had gone. This wasn’t me, this wasn’t my life. What the heck happened to the girl I was 10 or 15 years ago. I was going to take off and go to college out of state, be successful and someday president of my own company. I would be physically ill if I left the house by myself. At first it wasn’t everywhere, it started by having a panic attack in the grocery store, then I didn’t go there anymore; then another in a different store, I didn’t go there again either. Every time I had a panic attack, I would avoid the location of where I was at the time of the attack, so not to cause it to happen again. Pretty soon, I started worrying that I would have an attack, so I wouldn’t go anywhere by myself. I was afraid of losing control of myself in front of others.

There came a point in time when I decided that things needed to change. I wanted my life back and I needed to do something about it. I felt like I was going crazy. It wasn’t easy and I was very scared. I began by forcing myself to go out to the mailbox. I hated it, but I did it, because I knew deep down that the only way to get over my fear would be to face it head on. I started to venture out away from home more. Instead of going to the little beach where I felt safe and had had no panic attacks, I went to the big beach with all the people. When the small steps started going well, I decided to take on the big challenges. I remember the night that Biddeford Youth Hockey held its annual board meeting. They were looking for a fundraising director. I decided this was going to make or break me. I remember telling myself “You are going to do this whether you like it or not”. I was terrified. I got almost there, and decided, I don’t really HAVE to do this. I can turn around and go home and no body will know. Well, I knew. That was the biggest problem of all. So I drove to the meeting, throwing up a few times along the way and became the fundraising director and proceeded to have a great hockey season and year. Once I made the decision to move forward with my life, other opportunities began to present themselves. I received a call from a friend who was hiring an analyst in her department. This would mean I would have to actually drive 40 minutes to work every day?! So I did it. And it was horrible for the first couple of months. But I did it. I made a decision to not let my fear run my life. I decided to run my life. I decided to tell my body and myself who was boss and how I was going to run the show.

That was so many years ago. Fear comes in different shapes and sizes and afflictions. But the cure is all the same. Taking control over your mind and telling yourself you must do something. Once you are successful at a certain task, it is a building block to the next step. You will literally be able to pull yourself out of what seems like an impossible situation into what you envision for yourself. To this day, I still have to remind myself of this fact. That I can chose to fear or chose to live life the way I want to. But it is all up to me.

"Fear cannot exist in the presence of faith ... Fear only exists because you feel that you are not in control. Give up the need to be in control, take a leap in faith and fear will vanish as the mists in the morning sun." author unknown

Tuesday, October 27, 2009

Weathering the storm

Are you uncertain of what the future holds for you or whether you can weather the storm? I hope you will enjoy the following which I recently wrote:

There is a small tree standing in a meadow with withered leaves from long days of scorching heat and little water. As the wind gently blows through its branches each day it loses its leaves one at a time until it looks sparse and ready to perish. As the cold approaches and its leaves are gone, it is an uncertainty if the tree will be able to withstand another harsh season or will die trying to survive the barren cold covered in a blanket of icy white. As it sleeps through the winter its will for survival is renewed and a new hope for tomorrow rises. Will this season be better? Will I bear fruit this year? Will the harsh elements kill my hope for a better tomorrow? On a beautiful spring morning it awakes to the warm sunlight melting the snow cover which is now providing live giving support and assurance of a better tomorrow. It now beams brightly with the hope of a new season and the expectations of a better tomorrow.

Monday, October 26, 2009

Don't be afriad to move forward

Growing up I always thought my life would be different than what it is. I was certain that I would be a sophisticated, talented, attractive, graceful, and fabulous woman who was president of a top Fortune 500 Company and had the world at my fingertips. As my life unfolded, I felt as far away from that and all I had imagined for myself as I could possible get. Until now. I’ve finally come to realize that I am that woman in so many ways, just in a different setting than I had imagined and so many things that I had imagined were out of my control, really aren’t.

Take 5-15 minutes everyday and plan your day. Include everything you can think of that you must accomplish today and at least one task that will bring you closer to your dreams and goals.

That one thing should be something that you don’t usually do. Something that puts you outside your comfort zone and moves you in a positive direction. It is uncomfortable at first, but being fearful and taking the action despite your fear is a courageous step on your journey to success. If your action results in a negative response, be persistent and don’t let the rejection define who and what you will be. Only you can decide to who and what you become.

Friday, October 23, 2009

Are you ready to face your fear?

It occurred to me last night that over the past few days I’ve experienced the same strange occurrence. Spiders. Everywhere I go, I’ve seen spiders, which in itself isn’t a strange occurrence, but for me - I’m afraid of spiders. On my way home the other night I was driving and from the glow of the street light, there on the inside of the windshield was a GIANT spider (okay, so it was a medium sized spider). I reached for something the kill it while trying to maintain my cool and drive the car. I knew if I didn’t kill this spider, I would have to sell my car. The next occurrence happened as I was watching TV in bed the same night. Spiraling down in front of the TV’s glow, and straight onto my bed, was a big spider (not a medium one). I’m sorry to say that spider is no longer with us either (my apologies to my sixth grade teacher - who informed me I may have killed Charlotte - sorry, Mr. H). Over the last couple of days, I’ve seen tiny spiders, small spiders, medium spiders, large spiders and even a giant spider who told me it was time to face my fears - if you keep telling yourself you’re afraid of spiders, you’ll never go in your house again.

Well that spider was right! I do tell myself, and everyone else for that matter, that I don’t like spiders. So guess what? I don’t like spiders. As you probably already know, my point has nothing to do with spiders and everything to do with facing your fears in life. What is it that makes you fearful?

A few steps you can take to start facing your fears are:

1) Identify what it is that makes you afraid. Make a list if you need to (I did);
2) Write beside each fear why you fear it;
3) Stop telling yourself you are fearful and start telling yourself you can handle it.

Why do people fear? The majority of time your fears never come into reality. So why do people spend extensive amounts of time in fear and worry over events and situations that in the end usually turn out fine?

Worry is an intense drain on human emotions. Your purpose on this planet was not to worry about events you have no control over, or even the ones you do. By constant worry, you stop your life dead in its tracks. It is impossible to live your life to the fullest when you are consumed by fear and anxiety. Life was meant to be experienced on a daily basis, not worrying about what is going to happen next week, next month or next year. Work towards letting go and trust that this Universe, God, your higher power, or whichever you prefer, will give you everything you need in life.

Thursday, October 22, 2009

What are your expectations?

Isn’t it a great feeling to wake up in the morning feeling happy and excited about life? The feeling of expectation and hope and peace. One of my favorite songs is “Feels Like Today” by Rascal Flatts…

“I woke up this morning, with this feeling inside me that I can’t explain, like a weight that I’ve carried has been carried away. I know something is coming, I don’t know what it is but I know its amazing, can save me, my time is coming I’ll find my way out, of this longest drought, and it feels like today….”

I often hear people say, “that’s just my luck” or “I knew it was too good to be true” or better yet “why them and not me”. Well the difference between you and “them” is you expect different things. The wealthy don’t expect to be broke and the healthy don’t expect to get sick. Your state of mind is so important in the way you live your life. Something that also plays a big part is what you believe to be truth. Very often people will say “You can’t do that, you don’t have enough money (or enough ______)”. If you are listening to other people tell you what you can and can’t do, stop now! The only difference between you and “them” is they believe they can and they look for a way to accomplish it and not wait for the way to come to them.

Your expectations, beliefs and action create your day and become your tomorrows. Plan well and expect good things.

Wednesday, October 21, 2009

Choices and Circumstances

It’s funny how we don’t really stop to consider how the choices that you make today might impact your future. When it comes down to it, who you are today isn’t necessarily the same person you were when you made certain choices that got you to this point. With that being said, you might not see the person you really are today until the results of the choices you make now come to light tomorrow. That is a pretty fine balancing act if you ask me. No wonder we get frustrated with our current circumstances; it is the result of where you’ve been in the past.

Our perception of our current situation in life frequently limits our ability to focus on what it is we want the most in life. There is a whole world out there and if we limit our thinking to only ourselves and the small piece of real estate we inhabit, we are selling ourselves short. By doing that we trap ourselves in unwanted circumstances and we begin to feel like we have no hope of achieving better things. If you can take a few minutes every day and look beyond your current circumstances, review the list of what it is you want the most, and remember that you deserve good things, you are capable and you are not alone, you can control the daily ups and downs in your life and become what you’ve always wanted. It is not an easy process that will happen at the snap of your fingers. It is difficult to pull yourself out of a situation and imagine yourself in another. Consistently practice this everyday by conscious changing your thought patterns when you feel that sense of hopelessness, imagining favorable circumstances instead of hopeless ones and being thankful for what you already have. Little by little you will change your belief in your ability to achieve your goals and the ability to be more focused on the things you want and not focused on the things you don’t want.

Tuesday, October 20, 2009

Begin Again Everyday

View each day as a new beginning. There are two things you need to remember in beginning again every day. The first being that yesterday is your history and there is nothing you can do or say to change the events of the day or produce a different outcome from where you are right now. The second is that it doesn’t matter what others think of you. You can’t really let it all go and begin new while letting someone else’s opinion of you shape who you are. It doesn’t matter if you’re happy, sad, abused, trapped or confined, remember there is a part of you deep down inside that is only yours and nobody can touch it.

Friday, July 24, 2009

I'm Here to Help You

I have been writing here and there for a few years now. I enjoy reading anything that is inspiring and positive and occasionally a good mystery novel. I've read hundreds of self-help books in my life and have always been overwhelmed by the extensive information in them and how to apply everything I’ve learn to my life at any given time. I have learned that what you repeat over and over again in your life on a daily basis will become a part of you. Despite the vast amount of knowledge in any given book, you may only hold onto one idea in your mind and incorporate that idea into your life. The book you’ve read may have incredible ideas that can be applied to your life on so many levels, but if you are not ready to hear what it is telling you at that point in your life, you won’t.

There are hundreds of books published every year that discuss success, how to have everything you desire and how to make yourself the best. Have you ever felt overwhelmed by the process of trying to apply the success principals to your life on a daily basis? As we all know, success in life takes effort, a change in behavior and the realization that you have to do both to succeed. Maybe you are one of the millions of people who begin every year saying, “This year is going to be different. This year I’m going to make my dreams come true”. If you do not prepare and change your actions from your current path for the upcoming year, do you really believe you will end up at a different destination than last year?

What if we did it together, supporting each other on a daily basis. I hope you'll join the journey of finding positive light in an ever negative world.