It occurred to me last night that over the past few days I’ve experienced the same strange occurrence. Spiders. Everywhere I go, I’ve seen spiders, which in itself isn’t a strange occurrence, but for me - I’m afraid of spiders. On my way home the other night I was driving and from the glow of the street light, there on the inside of the windshield was a GIANT spider (okay, so it was a medium sized spider). I reached for something the kill it while trying to maintain my cool and drive the car. I knew if I didn’t kill this spider, I would have to sell my car. The next occurrence happened as I was watching TV in bed the same night. Spiraling down in front of the TV’s glow, and straight onto my bed, was a big spider (not a medium one). I’m sorry to say that spider is no longer with us either (my apologies to my sixth grade teacher - who informed me I may have killed Charlotte - sorry, Mr. H). Over the last couple of days, I’ve seen tiny spiders, small spiders, medium spiders, large spiders and even a giant spider who told me it was time to face my fears - if you keep telling yourself you’re afraid of spiders, you’ll never go in your house again.
Well that spider was right! I do tell myself, and everyone else for that matter, that I don’t like spiders. So guess what? I don’t like spiders. As you probably already know, my point has nothing to do with spiders and everything to do with facing your fears in life. What is it that makes you fearful?
A few steps you can take to start facing your fears are:
1) Identify what it is that makes you afraid. Make a list if you need to (I did);
2) Write beside each fear why you fear it;
3) Stop telling yourself you are fearful and start telling yourself you can handle it.
Why do people fear? The majority of time your fears never come into reality. So why do people spend extensive amounts of time in fear and worry over events and situations that in the end usually turn out fine?
Worry is an intense drain on human emotions. Your purpose on this planet was not to worry about events you have no control over, or even the ones you do. By constant worry, you stop your life dead in its tracks. It is impossible to live your life to the fullest when you are consumed by fear and anxiety. Life was meant to be experienced on a daily basis, not worrying about what is going to happen next week, next month or next year. Work towards letting go and trust that this Universe, God, your higher power, or whichever you prefer, will give you everything you need in life.